Hi Carolyn,
A warm welcome back to the forums - and don't worry, I didn't think you were rude! It was all change around here in October, when Mark sold the site on to me, and since then the regulars and I have been rallying round to generate interest in the site once more, as it had turned into a bit of a dustbowl. We've managed that with the Thailand forum quite nicely, but the Bali forum is still a bit quiet. So it's great to see you back and posting, thanks!
You can still PM Mark on here and he'll receive it - his username is now markaa - last I heard he was still living happily in Spain (or was it Portugal?) with his family and his collection of antique swords :-D